It is funny how we all try to stereotype ourselves and put ourselves inside a box and say we are 'this'! How many of us would want to get out this box and say 'This is who I am, and I dare to be so!'. So what about all those people inside this box? They too become a part of this stereotypical society. That is the point! The societies we live in are stereotypes and they accept applications from strict stereotypes. Imagine then what would happen when a 'girl' gets 'raped' in such stereotypical societies. The reactions can only be this!!!
Jinone galti ki.. sharabi they. Agar us kanya ne saraswati mantra liya hota, guru diksha li hoti.. toh boy friend ke saath picture dekh kar jis kisi bus mein ghusti nahin. Agar ghus bhi gayi.. toh 6 sharabi the.. Bhagwan ka naam leti aur ek ka haath pakadti "Tere ko toh mai bhaiyya maanti hoon”… Do ko bolti “Bhaiya! Main abla hoon. Tum mere bhai ho. Dharam ke bhai ho. Bhagwan ka naam lekar haath pakadti, pair pakadti.. itna durachar nahi hota. Galti ek taraf se nahi hoti.
- Asaram Bapu, 'Spiritual leader', on the 2012 Delhi Gang rape case To my understanding, consumption of fast food contributes to such incidents (rapes). Chowmein leads to hormonal imbalance evoking an urge to indulge in such acts… You also know the impact of chowmein, which is a spicy food, on our body. Hence, our elders also advised to consume light and nutritious food.
- Jitender Chhatar, Thua khap panchayat 'leader' made this statement in light of lowering the marriageable age from 18 to 16 for girls so as to prevent rapes Ban mobile, end rape. Vinay Bihari, Bihar 'Minister' in an interview for a daily newspaper.
I don't feel any hesitation in saying that 90 per cent of the girls want to have sex intentionally but they don't know that they would be gang raped further as they find some lusty and pervasive people in the way ahead. Harayanvi Congress 'leader' Dharambir Goyat.
Did Nirbhaya really have go to watch a movie at 11 in the night with her friend? Take the Shakti Mills gang rape case. Why did the victim go to such an isolated spot at 6 pm? Asha Mirje, Member, Maharashtra State 'Women's Commission'
Rape victims come from this society, whether they want to brand themselves as stereotypical or not, is a matter for them to decide, not us! But the minimum we can do is to at least stop judging and making life difficult for them. Coming back to the original point of discussion, just like the rape victims who come from this society, the rapists too come from this society. A reflection of the latter argument can be seen in the clear and unhesitating voice of Mukesh Singh, one of the accused in the 2012 Delhi Gang rape case. No brownie points for guessing where you heard his voice. The answer is simple 'India's Daughter' documentary directed by Leslee Udwin. Famously known as the 'BBC documentary'. 16th December 2012 marks a historic day in India. Jyoti Singh an Indian woman was brutally gang-raped by six men, one happening to be a juvenile. This day had two important outcomes. While one marked the culmination and dawn of a new beginning for women who broke the long-held silence of violence, the second pointed out the grave dangers of living in a patriarchal, perverted, pessimistic and irresponsible society. 'Nirbhaya' (Fearless) as the rape victim was fondly called became a faceless face for every 'victimized' woman who might belong to any family, society or country and not alone to an Indian family, Indian society or India.
Rape, murder, or violence all of these are global issues, if BBC picks up this strand and makes a documentary titled India's Daughter depicting the harsh realities that exist in INDIA then it funnily becomes a matter of International 'politics'. One country trying to tarnish the image of the other! One country trying to push its 'super power' image over a 'rising power'!
This one issue brings forth several questions onto the table for discussion. As part of this discussion, the issue of this ban being a case for international politics and as a restriction of media freedom would be discussed. To begin with, titling the documentary as India's Daughter is both right and wrong but at different levels. It is right because she is India's daughter. It is wrong because she is not alone India's Daughter. Secondly, it reinforces those who believe in the 'whites mentality' of them being the saviors of mankind.
This mere titling has an important role to play because India now feels victimized. This titling as they believe would then lead to a series of assumptions, namely: Women in India live in total unsafe conditions. They are more prone to get raped than any 'other' country's woman. Indian men can't be trusted. They are only driven by one instinct. Attitude of Indian society towards its women is demeaning and dangerous.
And as if to prove their point right a case of a German professor denying an Indian male student for internship citing the 'rape problem in India' as the reason pops up. Whatever allegations the BJP then put up against BBC i.e. BBC's alleged attempt to deface 'India' and not the issue appears true.
But all said and done this doesn't make it a reason for the government to ban the documentary. Had the government chosen to have acted in a more 'mature' manner by airing the documentary in India, the government would have had a face to put up in front of the people and it would have shown the government's sincere and honest attempts and ambitions to deal with the problem. Had it given precedence to the issue of rape than what they have given to the BBC channel then the government would have not been in hot water. In turn by banning the documentary the government seems to have mocked its own self that is to say that Indian government deals with rapes by bans. This is reinforced in an article found 'co-incidentally' on the 'BBC website'.
So, either way all the countries would now be joking that Indian government saves its face by either running away from the situation or by banning. Won't this be suggestive of the fact that India is defacing itself in the arena of international politics? I would personally wish media to retain its freedom and though difficult it should get into the practice of self-regulation (because there is something called ethics!) and if they can't our government can (it can ban whenever it finds anything 'offensive', or for that matter any 'attempt' made on the part of media to 'deface' the government in the international arena)!
Rape is beyond the violation of a woman physically. Rape is just the beginning of a process of torment for the woman and if her family is ready to 'accept' her as she 'is' then for them as well. We constantly keep coming back to the issue of 'sexuality' and 'virginity' of a woman. If men are raped as it does happen would the issue of virginity be associated for them? Yes, rape is not alone about physical violation. It is also about the mental violation. Every time a guy passes a lewd remark while a girl is walking or when she is waiting as the sky darkens up and she can't find trace of any auto and there are a bunch of guys standing drunk just few feet away from her. The fear that rises in her heart and its rapid registration in her brain, that too is mental rape. When we still haven't discussed about physical rape where then will we fit in the other strand of rape?
As a final note, I am glad that this documentary was made. It was needed. It was needed for the society to know that rapists don't deserve mercy and unlike some baba said 'they are boys and committed a mistake' that attitude needs to go!
As I had stated initially I laud those who have the guts to say I am what I am! and those who dare to face those who don't call them by their names but rather choose to title them as 'rape victims'. One such Nirbhaya was Suzette Jordan. She died. If you ask about justice being delivered I again do not have an answer. God knows how many Nirbhayas exist to whom justice wasn't delivered and are still waiting. And the government who has been so vehemently questioning BBC's motives need to look into the fact that not always is a channel's supposedly 'true hidden motives' a reflection of the people of that country. There are some who may think this way too:
Why aren't we talking about this and making a big noise about to try to highlight and stop it here in the UK? Because rape and domestic violence is still a taboo subject that most of us would rather pretend didn't exist. We also can't ignore the fact that by and large our country is run by men so there is not much of an appetite to whip up a debate about it. Women on the other hand often don't want to talk about it because of the stigma the subject carries. They fear being labelled trouble causers, or reviled as man haters or even damaging their career or status.
Suzanne Virdee, BBC News presenter Yes it is true, I say again that the title of the documentary shouldn't have been so, and an answer to this has been given by an Indian Businessman who made another documentary titled 'United Kingdom's daughters'. But the answer to this titling needs to stop till here and there need not be any further discussion on why this ban rather the focus should now come to the issue. That was the entire point why this documentary was made, it was made to facilitate more discussion and dialogue.
It is high time that the government took up the issue of sexual harassment of women seriously. It is high time that the curtained women were provoked. It is high time that we woke up to answer the conspiracies of our own silences. Media autocracy/ freedom, international politics though important issues are secondary to the problem of rape and the factors leading to it, and the time has finally come for us to look through the issue of rape and find solutions to it. If employment is a solution then provide it! If bettering the conditions in slums a solution then do it! If censoring or banning adult-content films or videos on YouTube or the shops that sell such DVDs a solution then it should be done! Whatever are the possible solutions lets discuss on that, let's just TALK!